Cracks in the foundation

 Up late again, the lyrics of a Stevie Nicks song 'Landslide' haunting my thoughts. "Well I've been afraid of changing, cause I built my life around you." A scary reality, right? To acknowledge your hopes, dreams, and wishes were built upon a relationship with someone. We focus our lives on the whims and emotions of others, downplaying our own daydreams.

     Imagine being the altar upon which someone has heaped their forever dreams. As if there isn't already enough pressure involved in any relationship. Expectations based on potential are doomed to fail. We expect to be the main priority in someone's life, forgetting the truth about each one of us; our individual happiness comes first. A unsettled, unhappy, unfulfilled person has zero chance of making anyone happy.

   To make it simple, we change. The person we were ten years ago isn't or shouldn't be who we are today. And that's why there are cracks in the foundation. 

    Is it better to try and fix the cracks in the foundation of a relationship, considering the personal changes and growth experienced? Or should the entire thing be dismantled, in order to rebuild? 

    The answers won't be found in a fortune cookie, a Bible, or in the opinions of friends on social media. The solution lies within, we only need to be honest enough with ourselves to acknowledge the truth. 

    Nothing lasts forever, no matter how much we wish it could. When the foundation cracks, and the relationship begins to crumble, like a landslide, shield the person who will be the most hurt by the debris as best you can. It's not their fault the whole thing collapsed. People change...